“I’m not ready to be alone’ ‘I don’t know how to be alone’ ‘No one is going to love me the way he does’. Being in love is a beautiful feeling, romance is awesome, relationships sometimes make us feel complete and companionship is very necessary. But when things don’t work out the way we wish it would, we shouldn't beat ourselves up for it. It is inevitable that at one point in our lives someone would break our heart and we would lose a very beautiful relationship.
It is very common that when most people go through rough times in their relationship or through heartbreak and find it difficult to move on, they either look for a rebound or beg to stay in the relationship forgetting that it might not have worked in a long run or they indeed need their ‘me’ time. I think because most people enjoy the idea that ‘being in love is a sweet thing’ they tend to remain in toxic relationships, they just cant be alone for a long time. Yes, we all enjoy the late night calls, the dinner dates, the fact that someone actually cares, having someone admire your new hair and tell you they love you countless times. We wish for that ‘notebook’ kind of love, but it is important that we know sometimes we need time alone to actually examine what we really want and not what every other person is having or what the society has for us.
Being alone isn’t actually a bad thing and it doesn’t mean that you are unloveable. Don’t beat yourself up cause it didn’t work out just the way you wanted it to, relationships end because of different reasons; maybe it is time you actually examine yourself and find out what you really want; or u both need time apart to see what really matters to you.
Don’t let the idea of being in love make you lose yyourself. Take your time to really know what love means to you, don't get too obsessed wih the idea of 'being in a relationship' that Each time you’re in love you forget yourself and try to please the other person and when the relationship ends, without really taking time to heal, you rush into something new and then the other person wants something else and you repeat the same thing of losing yourself trying to please the person, at the end of the day you just becoming easily manipulated, God help you it doesn’t lead to marriage because you will eventually be unhappy and miserable for the rest of your llife. An Ex once told me 'You can't keep going into a relationship with the pain of a past relationship, let things slide and make sure you love yourself first, because if you don't yourself, consciously or unconsciously no matter how much I love you, I cannot love you enough if you don't love yourself'
So, Why not take time for yourself, take time to be alone and live life to its fullest so when someone comes your way they can learn to love you for who you are and you can also love them equally. Give yourself 100% attention, try new things, discover things about you that you haven't actually known yet. The whole point of companionship and compatibility is two people who are who they are and they accept each other and try to make each other better. I believe when we love ourselves the right way, it is easy to spot people who don’t love us the way we want, we are not easily manipulated. ‘cause to be honest love is not really a complicated thing, we are the ones who create complications for ourselves. LIVE. LOVE AND BE HAPPY
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