5 RULES FOR A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP

5 RULES FOR A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP
#Rule 1: LEAVE YOUR PAST BEHIND. The past is defined as an event that 'happened'. It shouldn’t be forgotten because sometimes it is important to make reference to the past but don't make your past experiences a foundation of your new relationship. Also, you shouldn’t go into a new relationship because of the PAST, nobody is going to correct the wrongs of the PAST for you. You are the only one who will correct it which is why it is very key to give yourself an ample time to heal from the experiences of a past relationship before you move on to a new one. You don’t wanna hurt this new person and most importantly You don't wanna hurt yourself.

#Rule 2. KNOW WHO YOU ARE DEALING WITH.
Many people especially girls, boast of knowing their partner but 80% of these people don’t even KNOW their partner. This is why most marriages fail or get boring at the long run and you hear things like ' I never knew he was an alcohol addict' ' I never knew she farts in her sleep'. It is important for two people who are going into a long term relationship to be best friends first before lovers. What does he like, what are her short comings? can you cope with her? Forget that you are in love but are you compatible? We all love many things that aren’t always good for us, so before you get lost in the fairy tale land of love get to know this person first. Also be transparent...

#Rule 3 LEARN TO COMPROMISE
This issue of compromise has become a thing of debate and many people abuse it all in the name of being in love. You should not compromise at the expense of your happiness. At the end of the day the goal is to be happy. However, a selfish partner/ partners cannot make a successful relationship. Whether materially selfish, emotionally selfish or any form of selfishness, it ruins a relationship. A relationship requires two people to give as much as they take. You aren’t going to like everything he does just like she's not going to like everything you do, in order to keep the relationship going learn to COMPROMISE

#Rule 4 COMMUNICATION IS KEY
There's a reason God gave us two ears and one mouth. People misconceive communication to just talking and talking and talking. What do you talk about in your relationship? Do you just talk talk and talk and never listen? Do you guys communicate well? It is important to put communication at the fore front of your love story. Women love to talk yeah! But it would be a good thing to also try to Listen to the man. Men have needs too, they have bad days too, they have mood swings, they are not super heroes. Learn to listen to him and not just talk and talk, also while you talk and he listens learn to listen to his listening ( funny yeah) it simply means pay attention to the way he listens ( eye contact works for me). Also, two of you should talk about the things that matter

#Rule 5 DO NOT RUSH
Keep calm and enjoy your relationship!!!!! Don't say the word 'i love you' until you know what it means and until you really mean it. You can be in a relationship and not say 'i love you' it's not a crime, it just means you're taking you time to say it.
Don't start acting his wife before you walk down the aisle, he has to earn you by showing you he's fit enough to be your husband by taking you down the aisle before you start doing the wifey sh**. Enjoy yourself in the relationship, take your time to do many things. Don’t lose yourself trying to make someone else happy. What you should be doing in 6 months don’t do it in 6 weeks. Don’t come at him with too much financial, emotional demands if you want a long term relationship with him. Most importantly LET SEX WAIT....