‘He’s a demon’  ‘He broke my heart’  ‘She is an opportunist’  ‘I can never love again’. Why are we quick to blame others when things don’t go the way we want? Are we so perfect we think we can’t make mistakes? A lot of people are going to hate me for this post particularly women but it won’t stop me from saying my mind because I also suffer from it this particular diseases. We all have emotions and whether we like it or not, our emotions will show but the question is Do we allow our emotions rule over us? One very deadly emotional cancer that people let rule over them because they fail recognise it or admit is Self- pity. It is eating deep into our lives and relationship with people and killing us gradually. It is difficult for people to admit to self pity and the fact that they carry a huge fan and supporters called ‘the pity party’ ( people who are with you based on sentiments). Having problems still understanding what self pity is? Let me break it own to you • ...

5 RULES FOR A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP #Rule 1: LEAVE YOUR PAST BEHIND. The past is defined as an event that 'happened'. It shouldn’t be forgotten because sometimes it is important to make reference to the past but don't make your past experiences a foundation of your new relationship. Also, you shouldn’t go into a new relationship because of the PAST, nobody is going to correct the wrongs of the PAST for you. You are the only one who will correct it which is why it is very key to give yourself an ample time to heal from the experiences of a past relationship before you move on to a new one. You don’t wanna hurt this new person and most importantly You don't wanna hurt yourself. #Rule 2. KNOW WHO YOU ARE DEALING WITH. Many people especially girls, boast of knowing their partner but 80% of these people don’t even KNOW their partner. This is why most marriages fail or get boring at the long run and you hear things like ' I never knew he was an alcohol addict...

Many women today are in dysfunctional relationships and we fail to see it. Or i would say many see it but they don’t just want you leave. Why? Why would you prefer a toxic relationship to your freedom. Why do you value what the society thinks about you than your happiness? I am not talking for the married ones now (puft!!! I am not married yet) I am talking for the unmarried ladies who believe being in a relationship is one of life's achievement. Here are signs to show you ‘he’s not just that into you anymore’ and you need to bag your bags and leave.... 1. HE COMPLAINS ABOUT EVERYTHING YOU DO. ‘ why do you look like this’ ‘why are you so clumsy’ ‘Why are you breathing’ ‘Why are you living’. Many ladies can testify to some pointless arguments with their men on why they do things the way they do. He just becomes unnecessarily touchy or he doesn’t see anything good in whatever you bring to the relationship. IT’S A SIGN YOU NEED TO LEAVE 2. YOU NOW FORCE HIM TO DO THE THINGS ...

I have asked myself this question countless times, WHY AM I SINGLE? I am sure many of us would have asked ourselves too. There was a time I would think it was because of the way I looked but then we should all conclude that beauty and being in love go hand in hand. No! Beauty is relative. Or you think you're single because you're financially unstable? Well, could be a reason but then love is not material. Do you think you're single because of your past? You think no one is going to love because of something that has happened to you like rape, physical abuse, well you could be single as a result of that because you haven't found someone who loves you enough to deal with it or you haven't dealt with it yourself. You are not single because you are ugly, financially unstable, or because you are not good enough. You are good enough for true love, you deserve to be happy, you deserve someone who would love you, you deserve a happily ever after. From my experiences, I h...